Having built a six figure women’s coaching business that has served 300+ women, I notice a clear difference between the women that have struggled and the women that have not only achieved their goals, but maintained the lifestyle long-term.

The old paradigm of fitness is all about:

Calories in, calories out

Focusing solely on how you look

it’s extracting value from something outside of yourself

“Once I lose X amount of weight, THEN I’ll be confident.”

“THEN I’ll live life fully.”

And then once you reach the “look” or the “weight” and the foot gets off the gas…because that’s always what you were running on: Gas.

Willpower alone can’t help you maintain your desired physique & health.

So then you burnout…until the next health kick…the motivation revs up…and the cycle continues.

Each cycle leaving you defeated, lost and confused as to why: “You just can’t stay consistent.” “Why can’t I just make it stick?”

The truth is: You’ve been running a faulty program.

Chasing quick fixes, instant gratification and even when you try to do it the “soft girl” route, it still leaves you craving more results.

The problem with the old paradigm (and here comes the shift/the new way) is people are skipping an ENTIRE step.

They are trying to DO the things to HAVE the body they want.

But, manifesting your dream body and peak health isn’t about DOING the things, it’s about who you need to BECOME.

Who do I need to BE, in order to DO the things consistently to HAVE the body, life , health I desire?

And that’s where everything shifts.

Where everything shifts from EXTERNAL motivation, to INTRINSIC motivation.

Where it stops becoming about chasing a look in the mirror alone or a number on the scale, but about your own internal transformation , with the external being a byproduct of that (of course, with the right strategy. We can’t ignore the 3D.)

All behavior change begins with: Identity.

The beliefs, stories, labels on the “KIND” of person we believe ourselves to be.

If you don’t “SEE” yourself as this type of person, you will continue to DO the things but have this internal resistance deep down to actually sustaining it long-term because it clashes with who you believe you are at your core.

Identity shifts occur over time through:

1.) Evidence building —> Doing what you said you would = Strengthens neural pathways to build new identity.

2.) Stop feeding the old identity —> If the old version of you goes on phone first thing in the morning, you stop feeding the old identity by stopping feeding the habits/behaviors and thoughts of that version of you.

If she speaks in ways that are limiting, you stop feeding that.

3.) NORMALIZE THE NEW BEHAVIORS w/ a HEALTHY DOSE OF DELUSION. Whenever you make a choice in alignment with the new identity, you’re going to say: “This is just who I am now. “This is just what I do.”

You make the CHOICE that this is who you are, you anchor into the identity NOW and lastly…you honor the version of you that you’ve been up until this point.

This isn’t about “killing off” the old identity, this is about making room for the new while honoring, loving the old. Because she served who you were up until this point.

Grieving is normal.

Not recognizing yourself is normal.

Feeling lonely is normal.

That is the part of identity shifting nobody talks about….

Because your dream body and peak health was never just a phase…it was a timeline

And the only reason it never stuck was because there was an underlying identity mismatch & your nervous system was never taught to HOLD it.

This is why I created The Quantum Body Blueprint: The First 4 Phase body manifestation process that fuses identity shifting, behavior change, spirituality and real gut health, nutrition & strength training protocols.

Learn more on my IG , here

We know the life we want to live, period.

We know the way we want to feel, period.

We know our desires like the back of our hands.

We Pinterest our desires.

We listen to the podcasts.

We visualize our highest timeline.

We opt into the guides, resources, courses & masterminds.

But, all of that is fleeting without the embodiment piece.

As I’ve been on this journey of self-discovery, healing, loving who I am without all the achievement/beauty/desires and also being in the joyous pursuit of those desires…I am witness to others & myself gaining more knowledge, yet feeling confused as to why we keep falling into the same patterns.

“Am I just lazy?”

“Am I just not disciplined enough?”

No.

That’s not it.

It’s that our bodies wiring hasn’t caught up to our vision.

To who we KNOW ourselves truly to be deep down.

You see, I don’t believe we are “becoming”.

I believe we are UNBECOMING all that we were conditioned to be/believe/do/want to have —> In order to remember & realign with our truest selves.

So HOW do we break the patterns? Beyond manifestation & into the science of rewiring we go…it’s actually VERY simple — It just requires RUTHLESS REPTITION.

1.) KNOW THYSELF: Identify Your Pattern/Cues.

Let’s say there is a new habit you want to embody to get a certain result. Maybe it’s dialing in your meal timing so you can have consistent hunger cues, better digestion, consistent energy/vitality and see more consistent muscle building & fat loss results.

But, the problem is — The unconscious OLD neural pathway gets into work, loses track of time “because she’s not hungry” —> All of a sudden it’s 6 pm and you’ve had one meal, 2 coffee’s and are ravenous.

• We BREAK the old pattern by IDENTIFYING the PATTERN itself —> Once we become AWARE of the PATTERN (Losing track of time, pushing through) —> We can then create a PATTERN INTERRUPT.

  • *1 MIN. EXERCISE: Write down a habit you want to embody. Then write the behavior that consistently keeps you from embodying that habit. (EX.: Go to bed at 10:30 am every night —> Scrolling on phone til 12 am.) —> What will be your pattern interrupt when you observe yourself falling into this pattern? (Ex. Realize I’m doing it, put phone in another room, pick up my journal/book instead.)
    

“Habits are like well-worn paths in the brain—they don't vanish, they just wait for another chance to resurface. Real change begins when those patterns are interrupted with something more intentional and aligned” - James Clear, Atomic Habits (The G.o.a.t.)

2.) Different Ways to Pattern Interrupt:

How do we actually break the pattern?

Because if we’re being honest… awareness alone doesn’t shift behavior.

You can know you’re self-sabotaging.
You can see the pattern in real time.

…and still choose it.

So no—this isn’t about just “trying harder.”
It’s not about relying on discipline every time you’re tired, emotional, stressed, or bored.

Discipline has its place.
But if that’s your only strategy, you’ll keep finding yourself back in the same loop.

Here’s how we actually start hacking the pattern at the root:

Increase friction on the old habit + reduce friction on the desired habit

Your brain is wired for efficiency.

It will always choose the path of least resistance.

So if Uber Eats is one tap away, but cooking requires thinking, planning, and effort…
guess what wins?

If scrolling is effortless, but journaling feels like “work”…
guess what you default to?

We don’t shame this. We design around it.

Make the old habit inconvenient.
Add steps. Add pauses. Add awareness.

And make the new habit stupid easy.

Pre-log your meals.
Keep high-protein options ready.
Lay out your workout clothes the night before.
Open your journal app instead of Instagram.

You’re not forcing change.
You’re engineering it.

Identify the reward behind the habit

No habit is random.

Every single one is meeting a need.

Late night snacking?
→ comfort, decompression, reward after a long day

Skipping the gym?
→ relief, safety, conserving energy

Scrolling for hours?
→ escape, stimulation, emotional numbing

If you don’t identify the reward, you’ll keep trying to remove something your brain still needs.

So instead—redirect it.

Give yourself the same reward, through a more aligned behavior.

Need comfort?
→ warm meal, tea, shower, slowing down intentionally

Need stimulation?
→ music, movement, a walk, a conversation

Need a “reward”?
→ build it into your plan instead of rebelling against it

You’re not removing the habit.

You’re upgrading the way the need gets met.

Accountability (but the right kind)

Not the kind rooted in guilt or pressure.

The kind that brings you back to yourself.

Someone who sees you clearly.
Who reflects the version of you you’re becoming.
Who doesn’t let you stay small—but also doesn’t shame you when you slip.

Because left to your own mind, you will justify anything.

Accountability interrupts the story.

Step into the frequency of the new identity

This is where most people get it backwards.

They think:
“I’ll act like her once I become her.”

No.

You become her by acting like her—before it feels natural.

“This is who I am now.”

Not:
“I’m trying to be consistent.”

But:
“I’m someone who follows through.”

Not:
“I’m trying to eat better.”

But:
“I’m someone who nourishes her body.”

Your brain is always gathering evidence.

So give it something new to believe.

Better systems > willpower

Willpower is unreliable.

Systems are predictable.

If you rely on motivation, you’ll only show up when it’s convenient.

If you build systems, you show up because it’s what you do.

This is where real transformation happens.

Not in one big moment of discipline…

…but in the quiet, repeated decisions that become automatic over time.

And this is exactly what we build inside Quantum Body Blueprint.

Not just “what to eat” or “what workout to do.”

But the identity, systems, and subconscious rewiring that make consistency inevitable.

Because your dream body isn’t built from random bursts of motivation.

It’s built from a version of you… that no longer negotiates with the patterns that used to hold her back.

How are you shifting your habits today?

Xx,

AVT. <3

Then it hit me…

When did I start going to ChatGPT more than God ? When I say God, I don’t mean in a religious way, I mean Source, all that is, God who lives within us.

Somewhere between the lines, we started listening more to Ai than our own inner knowing…

Then I asked deeper… what do we actually go to Chat for when it comes to advice?

Is it to better psychoanalytically understand something?

To make sense of meaning?

To validate what we already know to be true deep down?

I truly believe Ai is an incredible, revolutionary addition to our everyday lives and increasing consciousness, but like anything, we can’t make a God out of it.

So here are the promises I’m making to myself to use my own discernment and to reconnect to my intuition, Source/God before delving into ChatGPT advice land.

This also goes beyond Chat, but even running to outside opinions first , externalizing responsibility, just to do what you know you wanted to anyway.

1.) Checking in with my own intuition first.

We always know what to be true. We just tend to not be ready fully for that answer or we tell ourselves we are confused so we don’t have to make a decision. The truth is, we always know — and if we don’t, it’s because we are doubting ourselves, our intuition and seeking external validation out of fear of making the wrong decision.

The truth is, you can never make a wrong decision.

So before asking anything or anyone else outside of myself, I take a deep breath…

I quiet my mind, body, brain..

And ask myself what I feel to be true.

2.) Seeking real HUMAN perspective before Ai perspective.

This means, right before I go to search something up — I actually pause and seek human perspective first. One, because I believe there is a unique wisdom in real human experience and perspective vs Ai collected knowledge. So I will search on Substack, blog posts and seek human perspective before robotic.

3.) Leveraging Ai and using discernment.

Discernment is powerful because it’s your unique ability to DISCERN what is aligned and what is not.

Ai is only going to continue to get bigger, more effective, more supportive and also more dangerous.

It’s our responsiblity to use discernment, to protect our brains and our bodies natural intuition. To leverage Ai for expansion, but not to replace our own intuition/knowing/creativity with it.

Do you agree?

How has Ai shaped your life recently?

Share your thoughts below.

They start to slowly identify what used to drive them, no longer is driving them.

That endurance is not the same as capacity.

And just because you “can” doesn’t mean you “should.”

As I sip on my iced latte, I await the rush of adrenaline that used to drive my actions to GO. To lock in. To Build… but as I wait for that rush, something else awaits me..

It’s not cortisol

Not adrenaline

Not even dopamine

It’s a steady signal from my body whispering that this isn’t the way we want to do things anymore (even though, we still love the coffee.)

It’s a signal from my body that we want to create from a grounded, regulated place.

And actually, when you are on your soul path/soul pull, you don’t even need to rely on adrenaline or caffeine to execute.

It’s actually just a byproduct of being so aligned on your path and passion.

Hey…I guess this is what this is now, me getting realigned on my path.

I’ve been on this healing process with my gut and nervous system and so now I guess it’s time to recalibrate how my body desires to create.

Not from adrenaline, but from abundance.

From clarity, not chaos.

From embodied wisdom, not endurance based creation.

And the holy hustle will always live within me, for I am fire.

But, in this season of life, it’s time to shift the way we execute.

Who’s with me?

Our body speaks truth.

Then our mind comes in and does what it does best —> it tries to protect.

So we pull up ChatGpt, voice note a million friends, seek mentors/coaches and social media advice to confirm what we already know deep down…or to add fuel to the fire of self-negotiation out of self-protection.

Nobody wants to make the wrong decisions, choices… the reality is — there is NO wrong choice.

The year of the snake has brought up a lot of shedding…and it required us to let go of things we didn’t even realize we had to let go of.

Things we had to face that we had no choice, but to face.

But in that facing, in that recognizing… Came clarity. Came the deep exhale in your chest when you know..you know.

So allow yourself to follow that rhythm.

Trust the whisper.

Trust the unknown.

Trust your faith.

Because the body…always knows.

Finding myself scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, yet completely numb.

I was watching myself from an outsider’s perspective, clearly stuck in freeze…

I asked myself: “What are you running from?”

The truth is, I had built something so powerful; Yet, I felt this level of contraction with the next level of responsibility.

“Here we go again (having to make another new hire)”

"I’m tired of feeling like I’m holding it all..”

“Why do I keep falling into these patterns?”

“I just want to BE THERE already.”

In that moment, I found myself just wanting to SKIP to the “End.”

The part of my life where I had it all figured out.

Because, then I’d feel peace…right?

And then it hit me…

The peace I’m looking for in a certain outcome is the peace I need to create for myself NOW.

The security I’m looking for is only found in the strength of my Faith.

The deep love I’m craving can only be found within the deep love I give to myself.

These are things we know on a logical level — But, ask yourself how much time you really dedicate to embodying it?

Sometimes I hate how much work it takes to really rewire your subconscious and nervous system.

But, that’s all a part of the figuring it out right?

We all want to skip to this ideal version of ourselves — The reality is, we are creating that NOW.

And one day… this current moment that you want to skip so bad, will be a memory. And you will look back and wish you spent a bit more time with this version of you.

Not because she had it figured out…but, because she was in the midst of figuring it out.

And actually — It was within the challenges, the becoming, the journey itself — was the magic.

So, we seek healing.

We seek how to change our mindset and uncover our blocks…but there’s one trap people don’t talk about and it has nothing to do with what you might think it does…

And that’s: The Healing Trap.

It’s the unconscious trap that tells us that in order to take action or go all in we need full clarity first.

We need to uncover our traumas, go deep within and then once we feel CLEAR then we can move…

“I need to heal this first and then..”

“I need to expand my capacity first and then..”

“I need to first get regulated then..”

Please tell me how this is any different than: “Once I feel confident, then I will take action.”

The truth is, you expand your capacity through duality and contrast.

You heal through the duality.

The duality of the both/and.

You’re healing AND you’re still moving.

You’re healing AND you’re still taking imperfect and seriously uncomfortable action.

You’re healing AND you’re investing in mentors that can help get you where you haven’t been able to get yourself.

You’re healing AND you’re taking a moment to regulate, move your body, cry, scream , make a meal and write that newsletter.

It’s not one or the other, it’s both/and.

Because it’s through the action taking that we then expand our nervous systems capacity to HOLD the duality of both the heaviness of healing/movement and the lightness of receiving downloads, guidance and seeing progress.

That’s true capacity building.

It’s not waiting to be fully regulated or healed.

Or to have “full clarity” on your next move so you can overhaul.

It’s allowing things to refine as you go.

Allowing things to unfold as you move.

Surrendering to not having all the answers or seeing the whole staircase, but trusting what is pulling you right now, right here, in this moment.

It’s building RESILIENCE through regulation and building capacity to hold both discomfort, heaviness and movement/grace.

That’s healing.

I was a weight trainer.

I competed in bodybuilding bikini NPC.

A nutritionist.

Deep in the world of macros, hypertrophy, body composition, discipline. (Slay)

From the outside, I was the picture of “health.”

But somewhere along the way, tracking my macros stopped being nourishment and started taking a turn. No I’m not talking obsession. More like just low health consciousness.

Highly processed protein powders.

Protein bars dressed up as “healthy.”

Endless caffeine.

Relentless training.

Chasing leanness at the cost of recovery.

I lost my period.

I overtrained.

I oscillated between “perfect” and “fuck it.”

Binging , rebounding, guilt, restriction, repeat.

And slowly—quietly—my gut started to break down.

At first, I ignored it. Because that’s what high-functioning women do.

We push through. 🥴 (not a flex.)

Then my skin exploded.

And not in a cute, manageable way.

I’m talking severe, inflammatory acne all over my face—after a lifetime of perfect skin.

No teenage acne. No adult flare-ups. Nothing.

Until suddenly… everything.

Everyone had an opinion.

“Just go on Accutane.”

“It’s hormonal.”

“You’re probably just stressed.”

“Cut dairy.”

“Cut caffeine.”

“Cut carbs.”

“Cut sugar.”

Trust me—I tried everything.

For three years, I tried to DIY my way through healing.

Low-inflammatory foods.

coconut cult.

Castor oil packs.

No coffee.

No alcohol.

No joy (lol).

Aestheticians.

Clean skincare.

Elimination diets.

My skin would clear…

and then come back with a vengeance.

That’s when I knew:

I couldn’t DIY this sh*t anymore.

So I decided to go all in.

Real labs.

Real data.

I needed answers.

I was desperate.

And finally—my first GI-MAP came back.

H. pylori.

Dysbiosis.

Opportunistic bacteria.

Validation.

See? It really is my gut.

Then the second GI-MAP came back.

Candida.

Parasites.

(✨ Fun ✨)

I did the whole she-bangggg

Herbal protocols.

Low-FODMAP.

Candida diet.

Supplements to the T—minus the occasional weekend travel or glass of wine.

And yes… things improved.

But something still felt off. (Still Lexi? Yes!)

I wasn’t healing from the inside out.

I was managing symptoms.

And that’s when the frustration hit.

Because if it wasn’t my gut…

what the hell was it?

The Part No One Wants to Talk About

Here’s the truth no protocol will tell you:

Your gut can only heal as far as your cortisol & ns are balanced.

And mine wasn’t.

When most people hear “stress,” they think:

Work deadlines.

School.

Big life events.

But no one talks about the low-grade stressors—the ones that quietly compound until your system is inflamed 24/7.

Waiting too long between meals.

That “one more coffee” at 4pm.

Late nights scrolling or watching Love Island instead of actually resting.

Waking up and immediately checking your phone.

Comparing yourself.

Suppressing emotions because “you’re fine.”

Pushing through grief, heartbreak, identity shifts, loneliness.

I wasn’t dramatically stressed.

I was chronically activated.

and that’s exactly why I wrote it off because it’s not something you just “feel” right away.

And no amount of antimicrobials can out-supplement a dysregulated nervous system.

So as the 5/1 Mani Gen I am… I became obsessed with all things stress, nervous system $ gut healing.

What Actually Changed Everything

it was time to address my addiction to stimulation.

I stopped trying to heal my body while living in a constant state of “go.”

I swapped late-night stimulation for parasympathetic signals.

I started telling my body it was safe to rest.

I didn’t make it another box to check -/ I made it a sacred practice for me to give to myself.

I created rituals—not routines—around my nights and mornings.

No phone first thing in the morning.

Slowing down before bed.

Letting my body feel “done” for the day.

Breathing.

Journaling.

Prayer.

Beauty.

Stillness.

Oh crying too. Crying is a big one.

I let myself feel what I had been bypassing.

The grief that sits in your lungs.

The heaviness of becoming someone new.

The identity death that comes with growth.

And something wild happened.(you guessed it:)

The inflammation started leaving my body.

I could feel it.

Almost INSTANTLY.

My digestion softened.

My nervous system settled.

And my skin—my skin finally started to reflect what was happening internally.

The Root Cause Isn’t Always Physical

We live in a culture obsessed with doing more.

More supplements.

More protocols.

More restriction.

More control.

More more moreee

But sometimes, less is the medicine.

And LESS IS MORE is the name of the game .

Sometimes the root cause isn’t another pathogen.

The GUT issues can still be a SYMPTOM of an even DEEPER root cause.

It’s unprocessed emotion.

Suppressed grief.

Chronic self-abandonment.

Living disconnected from your body for too long.

Ancient medicine has always known this.

Traditional Chinese Medicine says: treat the consciousness first.

Ayurveda speaks to elements, energy, and imbalance long before symptoms appear.

None of this is new.

We’re just remembering.

Because at the end of the day, a system built on symptom management doesn’t profit from true healing.

But that’s a conversation for another time.

If You’re On a Gut Healing Journey…

Yes—get the labs.

Yes—use the herbal protocols.

Yes—clean up your nutrition.

But please hear me when I say this:

None of it works without addressing the low-grade stress, inflammation, and emotional load your body is carrying.

Healing requires presence.

Safety.

Feeling.

Your body is not betraying you.

It’s communicating.

And when you learn how to listen—

your gut, your skin, your weight, your energy, your life… They all begin to respond.

Because your body isn’t the obstacle.

She’s the key.🔑

I want to take it a step back first…and remind you that the habits you desire don’t start with what you need to DO → but who you need to become.

As you read this, I want you to make a decision right here, right now, that you ARE (already) a highly successful (and happy af) woman.

You’re already the woman on her sh*t.

You’re already the woman who is embodied.

This is who you are now.

This is what we do now.

There is no turning back.

Just decide — With that being said, now that you have DECIDED that you ARE this woman, it’s just who you are, it’s encoded in your DNA, let’s go over the 5 habits that this type of woman has.

1.) She Makes Her Routines Sacred

Successful women don’t need “routines” they need rituals. I’m not talking about dancing around a fire (unless that’s what you wanna do ;)), I’m talking about making something mundane, sacred.

Let’s be real, you spend all day working, wake up early, the last thing you wanna do when get home is feel like you’re already shutting down your day when you feel like you haven’t even had time for yourself yet.

So the TikTok scroll, YouTube vlog or Love Island binge feels like your only way to really give to yourself and escape the day; But, what If your night routine wasn’t just another box to check off — but the way you give back to yourself every night?

Have your 60-90 min. veg out time to do whatever you want, but then, we wind down.

Except, your wind down routine becomes your sacred time to signal to your body that the day is over, you’ve done your job and now it’s time to give to yourself.

No rushed skin care, no forced journalling sessions — You get to choose how you’d like to give back to your body, mind and spirit that night.

I personally love the idea of a “Wellness Menu”. It’s a mental menu or toolbox of all the tools/habits you can choose from on any given night or morning.

So instead of forcing journalling or affirmations — You can choose what you feel you need that morning and change it up based on your needs, but the structure stays the same. Example: Every night at 9:30 PM EST Alex starts her wind down practice, she does her usual skin care while practicing slowing down her body and nervous system. She put’s on her red light lamp and then asks “What does my body/mind need tonight?” → Based off that answer, she will give herself what she needs.

Maybe it is a brain dump journal session. Maybe she’s craving a lymphatic massage and legs up on the wall and reading 10 pages of a book. Whatever it is, is up to you. Just make it sacred to you.

2.) She Has Real Lifestyle Systems

(If you want to build your own lifestyle systems that work for YOU from night/morning routines, meal prep systems and more —> Download our “Busy Girl Routine Builder HERE (Free for a limited time.))

There are a few lifestyle systems every highly successful (and happy) women has in order to maintain her body, frequency and success from a place of ease, joy and pleasure. That is the following:

• Meal prep/Nutrition systems

• Weekend life systems

• Household systems

• Money management systems

Let’s break these down briefly:

• Meal prep systems —> The highly successful woman eats not just to fuel her body, but her brain. She know’s that she holds a lot of responsibility and she doesn’t mind it! But that’s why she needs to stay on point with her nutrition and if that slips, her energy slips, her confidence slips and burnout slowly creeps up. It’s a non-negotiable.

  • Choose 2 days a week where you dedicate 1 hour to batch cooking or prepping your food for the week. (Ex. Sundays + Thursdays, Mondays + Fridays) —> This ensures you have enough food prepped for the week without overwhelming yourself with one day of 4-5 hour prep you’re never gonna do again.

  • Follow the P3 Method (If you’re tracking macros) —> PLAN, PREP, PRE-LOG.

    • Plan your meals first.

    • Break down your grocery list from the planned meals.

    • Prep your food.

    • Pre-log your meals once cooked to hit your macros everyday w/ ease!

  These are the exact nutrition systems we teach our clients in our premium nutrition, training & lifestyle coaching program: EmbodyHER (IG: embodyher_healthcoaching)

Weekend Lifestyle Systems

• Have you ever found yourself crushing it Mon-Friday afternoon and the rest after that is a mf blur? This is because you lack weekend systems.

  • Weekend systems are when we reverse engineer from Monday exactly how you’d like to feel. We use the power of visualization to map out eactly how you want to feel and the progress you want to make and we reverse engineer decisions and non-negotibales from there.

  • We are NOT overhauling your weekends or writing down every little thing— but we are thinking ahead and setting yourself up for success.

  • The only difference between Mondays & Fridays is the level of intention and planning. Monday’s you’re all ready and preparing for a new week, Friday’s you’re throwing it out the window. Only difference.

• Visualize your future self, how you’d like to feel come Monday… then reverse engineer & Map out your non-negotiables

  • What meals do you need prepped?

  • What social event’s do you have & how can you plan around that?

  • Focus on your non-negotiables:

    • Steps (8k min.)

    • Hydration

    • Macros & Micros

Household Systems

• Household systems are reducing friction around household things. Whether that is delegating chores or just finding what works for you.

  • Examples: Cleaning dishes as you go vs letting them pile up.

  • Picking up as you go vs letting things pile up

  • Doing 1-2 house chores daily vs all on a Sunday reset.

A clean home = A clear mind. Top tier women make sure their environment reflects that. Nobody is perfect, sometimes our mental health gets to us, but one thing is for sure - A clean home will absolutely improve any mental situation.

Money mgmt. Systems

• Highly successful (and happy) women don’t hoard, obsess, cling to their money, but they also don’t completely avoid/ignore their money.

• They have intimate relationship w/ their money and see it as a tool for growth and security.

• They invest in their financial literacy, books, podcasts and apply that information. I personally use a Weekly development dashboard to help me build and refine my wealth building skills as someone who has made a lot of money, but it only amplified my really poor money mgmt habits

  

  A sneak peek into my weekly development dashboard where I track my progress on my money goals!

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The reason there is such an emphasis on SYSTEMS is because systems create EASE. Whereas constantly planning on the go, randomly doing everything is what causes overwhelm and burnout.

Cue: “I don’t have the time”, “I just will wait til things are more settled” excuses.

Now, let’s rapid fire the rest, because ya girl did not excpect to go this ham on this newsletter and I, myself, need to hit the gym haha:

3.) She prioritizes sunshine, sleep, nutrition and weight training. (DUH.)

Real beauty and wellness comes form within. These are the basics of the systems she creates. She doesn’t obsess over HIIT workouts and fad diets. She focuses on wellness from within, honoring and nourishing her body from the nervous system, gut, brain and yes , aesthetics, because she does care how she looks.

4.) She doesn’t engage in dating apps, mindless dating and protects her peace like it’s her JOB.

BYE! She know’s that whenever she is getting distracted obsessing about who her future partner is, is simply unchanneled energy. She definitely fantasizes about her future life partner, but she’s intentional and makes sure her energy is clean and clear and focuses on becoming that frequency match to that partner through her OWN healing, growth and development vs constantly seeking it outside of herself.

5.) She is consistently pushing herself out of her comfort zone. She is not waiting ot be discovered, she makes herself VISIBLE through collaborations, connections and asking herself: “What is something that is so out of my comfort zone?” and makes THAT her next move. Whether that is investing in a mastermind, holding her first in person event, pitching herself to speak at events or collaborate, or even just something as simple as going to the gym in town without running back out!

✨ BONUS and most importantly: She focuses on being IN her body and staying connected to her sovereign energy. To be sovereign is to be an empowered woman who fully owns her life, decisions, and boundaries, operating from her own internal authority rather than societal expectations.

She embodies self-trust, authenticity, and emotional independence, having reclaimed her power from external validation or, as described by Angi Sullins and Bethany Webster, by releasing the need to please others.

She doesn’t live from the head, she lives from deep in her body and intuition and then executes from that aligned place.

There is so much layers to the highly successful and HAPPY woman. It’s not a trend, it is a lifestyle. It’s a level of embodiment. Embody HER and you will find purpose within yourself.

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I started with structure — and it gave me my life back.

Before that, food felt loud. My body felt unpredictable. I was either “on” or completely disconnected. Every choice felt emotional, and every slip felt like proof that I couldn’t be trusted with myself.

Learning how to eat — really eat — was freedom.
Training consistently was grounding.
Tracking wasn’t a cage; it was clarity.

It taught me what my body actually needed instead of what my fear told me it wanted.
It gave me data when my emotions were unreliable.
It built trust where there had only been reaction.

For the first time, my body stopped feeling like a mystery I had to fight.

And yes — my body changed.
I built strength. I maintained it. I learned consistency without chaos.
I proved to myself that results didn’t require extremes.

That part matters.

Because structure isn’t the opposite of intuition — it’s how intuition is earned.

But here’s the part no one really prepares you for.

If you stay in the learning phase forever, structure can quietly become your identity.

Not because it’s wrong — but because it worked so well, you’re afraid to loosen your grip.

I hit a point where the question wasn’t, “Can I do this?”
It was, “Can I trust that I no longer have to watch every step?”

That’s a different edge.

The work stopped being about fat loss or discipline and became about safety.
About whether my nervous system could hold consistency without constant oversight.
About whether my body could maintain without being micromanaged.

This is where people get confused.

They think intuitive eating means skipping the foundation.
But real intuition is built on top of competence.

It’s what happens when you’ve already done the reps.
When you understand hunger because you’ve tracked it.
When you can feel your body because you’ve listened closely for long enough.

Maintenance isn’t the absence of structure — it’s structure that lives inside you now.

I didn’t abandon what got me here.
I integrated it.

Training became something I do because my body responds — not because I’m chasing an outcome.
Food became something I navigate with trust — not fear.
Consistency stopped being something I force and started being something I expect of myself.

That’s the shift no one glamorizes.

The moment where obsession softens — not because you “don’t care,”
but because you’ve built a system strong enough to let go.

If you’re standing there — between structure and trust — you’re not regressing.

You’re graduating.

And becoming someone new doesn’t mean erasing who you were.

It means letting what once held you up… now hold you from the inside.

Track your calories.

Eat less than you burn in a day.

Workout 5-6 times a week.

Don’t be an a**hole.

And you’ll be golden!!

& To a point, YES, losing weight is honestly one of the stupidest-ly simple things you can do (on paper.)

Most women & men have LOST weight (that’s not the issue) and most people can be “ALL IN” for a period of time and see some really great results…

But then why do statistics show that 85-90% of people who lose the weight gain it ALL back and MORE wihtin 3-5 years?

Because this was never just about eating clean, hitting your macros and going to the gym alone. That is just the vehicle.

It’s about how your inner world and inner programming is silently manifesting the same physical body and behaviors you’ve been trying to escape and rewire for ages.

It’s about the way you reach for sugar when you’re feeling stressed or lonely or sad as a way to provide comfort instead of giving that same feeling to yourself without hte cookies.

It’s about the weigh we silently panic if the scale is up a bit, but feel a sense of relief when it’s down.

It’s about rewiring the patterns around our body, self image, food → And this all starts with ONE thing: The SUBCONSCIOUS.

Your subconscious mind is responsible for 95% of your reality. This is FACT.

The subconscious mind is the vast part of your mind, operating below conscious awareness, that stores memories, beliefs, habits, and emotions, influencing over 95% of your thoughts and behaviors automatically, like breathing

While the conscious mind (5%) handles immediate awareness and problem-solving, making the subconscious a powerful, hidden "operating system" for your life that can be reprogrammed to support goals or hinder them.

I’ll take it a layer deeper.

Your subconscious mind is not just your “thinking” or “unconscious behaviors.”

It’s actually your BODY.

Your BODY IS YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS.

Your nervous system.

So the way you lose -20 lbs and then all of a sudden feel a silent exhale of relief of “Okay now I can get back to living my life.” OR you cling to control out of fear of “gaining it all back” obsessing about every little claoire..

That’s NOT a calorie tracking obsession issue OR a “lack of discipline” issue —> It’s a nervous system issue.

It’s a PATTERN.

When we become aware of that pattern —> THAT is when we get to choose to REWIRE.

Because if you do not actively imprint on your subconscious, it will run YOU and your life.

This is why I built a proven framework that fuses subconscious reprogramming, emotional healing and practical fat loss and muscle building strategy into one method: Our Fit Body Frequency Framework (New name TBD…?)

First step to rewiring is:
1.) IDENTITY (Define the old YOU vs the TRUE you.

• How does this version of you show up?

• Whats their morning routines?

• How do they respond to challenges differently?

• Where do they put their time/energy/attention

Identity is the CORE of behavior change. Because our subconscious will DEFAULT to WHO it believes we are. “I’m THIS type of person” or “I’m THAT type of person” language needs to CHANGE.

2.) BELIEFS (Awareness & Shadow work)

3.) REWIRE (NLP, Eft Tapping, Cognitive reframing, Breathwork/Meditations, Scripting, Embodiment)

So now you can see while it is…on a very surface level black and white perspective.. It’s so much more complex than just calories in, calories out.

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Nobody told us we’d be dying and re-birthing all the time.

I want my money back.

All jokes aside — People talk about 2025 being the year of the “Snake” and constant shedding, well I feel like my entire life has been a shedding.

Not in a bad way, honestly, if it weren’t for these moments — I wouldn’t feel the appreciation I have for growth and rebirth. I do feel I at least have a deep capacity for it.

But, I’m tired of “dying” and “rebirthing” — I’m ready to be in overflow for once. To feel like things are flowing and growing without feeling like the other shoe is going to drop.

This is the in-between.

You’re not totally who you were (AT ALL), yet you’re still stepping into who you’re becoming…you’re in the "in-between.”

The void space where there is a lot of unknown, uncertainty, desire for clarity. Wanting to move, but still feeling like you’re not 100%.

This is me moving.

I’ve never felt more clear in my purpose, but there’s a knowing deep down that some things I’ve built won’t be able to come along with me…and that’s scary.

I think that’s what tends to be the scariest thing about stepping into new identities and timelines…knowing that deep down not everything or everyone can come along with you.

I’m not afraid of loss, I’ve experienced it and will experience it more I’m sure… well I think we all don’t want to feel loss - But what I’m trying to say is, I think at times I’m moreso afraid of heartbreak. Letting people down. Making the wrong decision.

The doubt doesn’t come from lack of self-confidence.

It comes from not wanting to make the wrong decision.

Not knowing the difference between resistance, soul mis/alignment and just a growth edge.

Because when you’re shedding that old layer, it doesn’t always feel good, it never feels good. But it doesn’t mean you’re on the wrong path.

Sometimes when other things die with that part of you, it can feel as if you’re making the wrong decision.

You have to trust in something bigger than you.

Something higher.

Surrender.

Let it all go.

Not need to control every outcome.

That has always kept me grounded.

Who are you becoming?

What are you letting go of that you know deep down can’t come with you?

We talk about the real reasons confident women still freeze on camera, overthink their content, or disappear for weeks… and how to shift into the identity of a creator who shows up with ease, clarity, and confidence.

If you’ve ever felt called to share more but your nervous system, fear of judgment, or perfectionism held you back — this conversation will help you understand what’s happening in your mind, body, and energy… and how to move forward powerfully.

• Why visibility blocks happen (and how to spot yours)

• Strategy problems vs energetic/nervous system blocks

• How identity shapes your entire content game

• Posting from your higher self instead of fear

• Making content feel authentic instead of forced

• Simple shifts to regulate your body + express yourself online

Inside this episode:

In this episode, I break down:
• My personal story with manifestation and how it’s shaped my body, business, and spiritual growth
• The difference between a soul path, a soul pull, and true manifestation
• The core pillars of manifesting your dream body and dream life
• The actual breakdown of energy and how the quantum field responds to identity
• The biggest misconceptions and myths that keep women blocked
• Ego-led manifesting vs spirit-led manifesting — and how to tell which one is running your life
• And so much more…

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If you’re reading this, Sup, I’m Alexis, Lexi for short, A Women’s Nutrition, Strength & Intuitive Life coach helping women actualize their highest potential through fitness and cultivating positive, healthy habits — Because I believe your body is the vessel and YOU are your initial purpose. When you pursue you as your purpose FIRST, Your secondary purpose will be birthed from that place.

I never thought I’d become a Women’s Health Coach, I actually wanted to design my own swimwear line at first, but I’ve always had an entrepreneurial spirit.

I’ve always known I was never meant to work for anybody else…ever…it always felt like a shoe that didn’t fit. You know when your toenail starts scratching against your toe because your shoes fit too tight? That’s how clocking in felt.

Fitness changed my life…but also not really…what actually changed my life was my sh*t relationship with food.

I was your typical yo-yo dieter (if you don’t know what that is…if you’ve ever found yourself constantly dieting on and off, losing and regaining the same 10-20 lbs over & over..convinced you’ll never actually achieve your dream body? Welcome, you’re a yo-yo dieter too.) I also competed in NPC Bikini Bodybuilding shows for 3+ years — It was an era to say the least, but it only amplified my disordered eating habits (Hello, binge eating x 10)

If anyone knows anything about a recurring karmic pattern in your life — You become OBSESSED with flipping it on it’s head and finding a solution for your pain.

My pain was my binge eating and restriction patterns.

One day it was “Fasting til 2 pm & extra cardio” —> Followed by “F*ck, I ate way too much” —> Trigger the cycle of more skipping meals and HIIT workouts to try and “reverse the damage.”

It left me in a place of finding myself feeling defeated and at a crossroad point I remember like it was yesterday: “Maybe there are people born healthy & fit and people who are always going to struggle and maybe I’m that kind of person…”

There was a part of me deep down that refused to believe that victim story though…Fast forward (because my thumbs are tired of typing) — I went on a pursuit of healing these patterns, hiring Macro coaches I aligned with and I did just that.

I also realized that manifesting your dream body & health is so much more than macros & training…You have to get your subconscious mind on board with your body goals…and that’s exactly where I fuse the metaphysical (subconscious, spiritual, energetic) with the physical (nutrition, fat loss, muscle building strategy) to help women do just that.

After 7+ years of helping women not only manifest their desired physiques but also cultivate deep, unshakeable self love, confidence & heal their relationships with food —> I built a 4 phase framework (because I’m a sl*t for frameworks and structure) currently called: The Fit Body Frequency Framework (Although, it’s a bit too wordy, and being the queen of rebranding…I have a few new names I might try haha)

So yeah…that’s a bit of my story, and honestly it doesn’t even cover the half of it.

If I sound like your vibe, follow along by hitting the “Subscribe” button — Here, not only will I make sure you get tons of real, tangible, practical fat loss, nutrition & training advice to build your hottest, strongest, healthiest physique; But, we’ll also dive into stories around leadership, subconscious reprogramming, spirituality & aligning with your highest timeline using quantum physics and vibes.

I think I’m liking this Substack thing… maybe I will stick around..

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Xoxo,

Coach Lex

These mindset rewires will help you simplify your choices, stay aligned with your goals, and build the identity of the woman who follows through.

Here's what we cover:

• Temptation → Freedom of Choice
  How shifting from “I shouldn’t” to “I choose” dissolves guilt, reduces overeating, and helps you feel empowered instead of reactive around food.

• Obligation → Desire & Identity Alignment
  Why forcing discipline never works — and how tapping into the part of you that wants to evolve creates natural consistency and aligned action.

• Outcome-Oriented → Behavior-Oriented
  The fastest way to stop sabotaging progress by letting go of scale obsession and focusing on daily behaviors that guarantee long-term results.

This episode is your reminder that sustainable weight loss starts in the mind — and when these three patterns shift, everything else becomes easier.

Not because of what you look like—
but because of what you choose, what you embody, and who you become when no one’s watching.

This is a conversation about turning your routines into rituals. Romanticizing your habits. Making the mundane feel sacred. And why your “hot girl era” is really a devotion to self-honoring, self-respect, and self-leadership.

I break down why consistency isn’t about discipline—it’s about identity. It’s about creating an environment, a lifestyle, and a frequency you actually want to show up for. When you romanticize the experience, habits become effortless. Fitness becomes fun. And your wellness routine becomes a portal into your higher self.

We talk:

✨ The spiritual energy behind “being hot”
✨ Why aesthetic, intentional routines regulate your nervous system
✨ How romanticizing daily habits makes consistency second nature
✨ Turning fitness + nutrition into rituals instead of chores
✨ Shifting your identity so the “healthy girl” version of you feels inevitable

If you’re ready to fall back in love with your rituals, elevate your standards, and make your daily habits feel sexy, sacred, and sustainable—this episode is your permission slip.

Tune in. Your higher self is already living it. Let’s get you there.

I’ll share personal moments where I had to embody courage — times I took the leap before I felt ready, trusted my intuition even when my mind was screaming “what if,” and chose to lead from my higher self instead of my fear.

Here’s what we dive into:

• Why fear never fully goes away (and why that’s actually a good thing)

• How to move with fear instead of waiting for it to disappear

• What it means to let fear be a passenger, not the driver

• How I reframe fear as a messenger meant for survival — not limitation

• How to make decisions from your power, intuition, and higher self, even when your body feels scared

The truth is, the most successful people don’t wait to feel ready — they just choose courage over comfort, again and again.

So if you’ve been feeling stuck, overthinking, or scared to take that next step… this episode will remind you that fear is normal — but courage is a practice.

💫 Press play and let’s talk about what it really means to move through fear and become a vibrational match for the life you know you’re meant for.

Consider this your permission slip to rebuild your body, your habits, and your life from the inside out.

• The real timeline of my healing and protocols that moved the needle

• Food, nervous system, and lifestyle habits I’m keeping for the long haul

• How listening to my body led to a cross-continental leap (and what this means for the brand, content, and community)

• Deeper nutrition + metabolism education (no fluff, just results)

• Strength training that sculpts and sustains (with smarter phases, not quick fixes)

• Nervous system + subconscious reprogramming you can actually apply

• Entrepreneurship, embodiment, and building a life that feels like you

• More candid behind-the-scenes, coaching hot seats, and community Q&As

If this episode lands, share it with a friend who’s healing her body and rebuilding her life.
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We’ll also explore:
🌑 What eclipse season actually is and why it’s so transformational

🌑 The connection between our cycles and the moon
🌒 How to recognize what point of transformation you’re at right now
🌕 How to alchemize old patterns and step into next level